American Poly: The Podcast

Anything goes? I don't think so!

The last episode of season one ends with an open discussion about boundaries.  Julie and Matt discuss some of their own no-go’s and why they have them, plus situations and problems they have experienced in the lifestyle when boundaries do not sync up.  Also, what can happen when a line gets crossed!  This is a great episode for newbies and veterans alike, and always a good topic to refresh on.  Do you have any boundary questions?  Situations you wished you had handled differently?  Reach out at julie@american-poly.com or leave a comment on the blog!

Love: A Valentines Day Short Episode

Happy Valentines Day everyone!  This episode will have you all aflutter and hopefully will give you some insight for thinking about how you give and receive love. Julie and Matt discuss how they show affection and love to each other and how understanding what your partners need emotionally can help you be a better spouse, partner, or lover in return.  As always, your comments and thoughts are welcome on our blog and via email!

Guilty Pleasures

The title might fool you a little, but this discussion is all about guilt in the lifestyle.  From religious views to feeling guilty for having too good a time with a new partner to shame over asking for what you want, Julie and Matt discuss the spectrum of uncomfortable feelings in the lifestyle.  Included are examples of what makes us feel guilty, and how we mitigate those emotions when they crop up.  As always, please leave us your comments, or send us an email with your story, we love hearing from our listeners!

Confidence: Walking Tall to Feeling Small!

Matt and Julie discuss the utter euphoria they feel when they meet a couple and everyone is so into each other and their confidence soars!  Then the confusion and insecurity they feel when a couple ghosts or steps back.  We all have moments when our confidence gets shaken and we doubt ourselves a little.   Listen in and let us know your thoughts, we would love to hear what helps boost your confidence or what leaves saying WTF?

Our First Interview!

We did it, finally, after a little creative persuasion (you know what we mean!), we got our close friends Sam and Ashley to sit down with us and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle.  We discuss getting started, bluefishing, the good, the bad, and even getting outed!  Join us for some excellent laughs, one liners, and all the shenanigans four amazing friends come up with.  We apologize for the crazy laughter; it always is part of our time together!  Let us know on the blog what you think of our first interview! 

Six Hands, Three Tongues, And Amazing Sex: All About Threesomes!

Who doesn’t love a good threesome?  If you said me…well, first you might be crazy, and second, Julie and Matt have some advice that might change your mind! Join them in this podcast as they discuss their own search for a unicorn and a bluefish.  Learn the fascination, the places they look, and the ideas they have about threesome play.  Also, they discuss great tips and tidbits about relationship health and maintaining your primary core while adding new interests.  As always, we value your feedback, and any personal opinions you have or ideas on the topic, please post them to our online blog!

Random Reddit Night

One of the fun pastimes Matt and Julie love to do together is scroll through Reddit and read the questions people in the swinging and poly lifestyles ask.  We discuss them with each other, and sometimes comment back!  We indulged ourselves with a podcast all about our little hobby, and hope that you enjoy the randomness of our conversation.  Some of the topics covered are: performance anxiety, struggling to find like-minded partners, and a tiny bit of advice for the bluefish out there.  We hope you enjoy and would love any feedback you have!

Going Stag: Lifestyle Events Without Your Partner

Join us for an interesting conversation about what happened when Matt could not attend a lifestyle event but encouraged Julie to go without him.  Listen along as we reflect back on that weekend, and talk about the issues that cropped up; how we each felt about “going stag” and the advice we both have for couples who may find themselves in a similar situation in the future. Matt joins us remotely for this podcast, as he was traveling, which got us thinking we should discuss this theme!  As always, let us know your thoughts and comments, we look forward to hearing from you!

The Things We Thought We Knew: Swinging Misconceptions

This episode will have you laughing, and probably saying, (Oh!!), that happened to us too!  It is interesting the ideas we get in our head about how we think the lifestyle should be, and the surprises we get when it is nothing like we expected.  Julie and Matt have a few doozies to share along with some sage advice that has always helped them…and if you listen to the end, there is a surprise!!  Shhhh, don’t give it away!  Pop on the blog and let us know of any misconceptions you’ve had; we’d love to hear from you!

The E in ENM and The Importance of Being Honest

This is a potent episode that everyone should listen to…because honesty is one of the core values of ethical non-monogamy!  Join Julie and Matt as they dive into this topic, and share personal experiences with lying, cheating, and why honesty is so important in their relationship.  Even though their needs are different, they share how they communicate with each other to strengthen their relationship.  Do any of our listeners have similar issues?  How do you feel about honesty?  Or the “don’t ask, don’t tell” lifestyle?  Send us your thoughts!