American Poly: The Podcast

Losing Our Swinging Virginity: Our First Encounter!

Here it is, the story of our first swing!  We reminisce about the nerves and excitement we had that day with a fun, sexy new couple. This conversation took on a life of its own as we explore swinger etiquette for newbies, plus some of our do’s and don’ts.  Join the camaraderie as Matt teases Julie about her “peel me off the ceiling” sex!  Do you have a great story about your first encounters? Or a valuable tip to share with our listeners?  Drop us a line; send an email, or post on our blog, we would love to hear from you!

Thanks but....no thanks?!

Episode eight covers the awkwardness that we all feel when we just don’t have the right chemistry with a couple…and dealing with the rejected feelings we get when someone doesn’t like us. (Shocker, I know, because we are so AWESOME!).  Swinging and poly relationship can sometimes be a revolving door of new people and it can be challenging to find the right mix of personalities and chemistry to make sparks fly.  Matt and Julie share their experiences with rejection and being the rejectors; but we would love to hear from our listeners if there are other graceful ways to say thanks…but…no thanks!

Jealousy: The Green-Eyed Monster

Episode seven is all about the dreaded jealousy topic.  Does it have a place in a healthy ENM relationship?  We all feel twinges of jealousy from time to time; Matt and Julie talk about their issues with the feeling, and the ways they help each other cope and diffuse the insecurity that goes along with it. Do any of you struggle with being jealous of your partners or vice versa?  We’d love to hear your thoughts and comments!

They’re Going To See Me Naked!

Episode six is a more serious talk about something that Matt and Julie feel like so many of us struggle with; and that is body image.  We touch on our own worries, and thoughts about our bodies, plus how we feel about past connections we had.  Body sensitivity and acceptance are so important to self esteem and having a great experience in this lifestyle. We’d love to hear your comments or thoughts, please check out our blog at American-Poly.com and start a discussion!

Our First Private Swinging Event!

Whew, get a drink and settle in for this one!  Matt and Julie reminisce about their first ever hotel takeover swinging event, and the crazy escapades that happen!  This was such an eye-opening event for both of us, who are typically more relationship driven.  The idea of being spontaneous and experiencing a quick connection with a couple that we didn’t know super well was both thrilling and nerve wracking. What are your takes on this subject?  Do you feel like being spur-of-the-moment and letting go is better, or is connection and friend-based swinging play better?  Leave us some comments on our blog at American-Poly.com!

Seeking New Friends Using The Power Of The Internet!

Episode four is all about our most favorite websites we use to find new couples and friends online.   There are so many options out there for finding like minded people, and we thought we would share how we approach the “hunt” and the interesting topics that pop up.  Tips on how to use the websites, personal safety, and setting up your profile are discussed along with creating good profile pictures.  Please feel free to share your favorite websites on our blog at American-Poly.com, we are always looking to explore more! 

Communication, Communication, Communication

Episode three is a biggie!  For Julie and Matt, communication is critically important in the ENM lifestyle.  Matt begins the podcast by asking Julie if it’s possible to over communicate?  Her answer is a resounding NO!  Matt points out how difficult it can be to share the things with each other that are uncomfortable; and how important is it to be open to each other and understanding.  We discuss the need for “safe space” inside relationships so that each person can feel like they are being heard and not judged.  This episode ties in a little with podcast two, as we overlap on the need for good listening skills.  We both worry about oversharing with issues that happen with other lovers or swinging paramours in our lives.  Being present and attentive to listening to those struggles, yet also objective and not putting our individual wants or preferences first can be challenging.  Do any of you struggle with these topics?  We’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas on our blog at American-Poly.com

Insecurity In Swinging: The Emotional Vulnerability

Episode two starts with Julie explaining how she can sometimes feel insecure with Matt when they swing with current and new partners.  Matt often worries that someone new will cross Julie’s personal boundaries, and she worries that a new partner will not respect her relationship with Matt. Other topics include the insecure feelings we get if we think that a new partner is a better lover for each other than we are. We discuss the open communication and re-connection we have that helps us work through these feelings and how we validate and reassure each other that our foundation is strong and lasting.  How do you deal with insecurity and vulnerability in your relationships?  Do you feel this comes up often?  We’d love to hear your stories and tips; check out our blog at American-Poly.com!

An Introvert Walks Into A Meet And Greet

Welcome to our first ever podcast!  Since it is our first attempt, we thought it would only be fitting to talk about Matt’s first experience with a public swinging meet and greet.  Being an introverted person, he struggles in a group to make conversation and connections.  How many of our listeners have the same trouble?  Do you guys have any ideas or tips for getting over the nerves that crop up?  We’d love to hear your stories like ours or your comments about our first podcast; check our our blog at American-Poly.com!